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Hi Reader,

Have you ever seen a garden that looked full and thriving...
until you looked a little closer?

Last summer, my daughter planted strawberries and tomatoes in our little garden box.

But the tomato plants completely took over.
Thick vines spread everywhere, swallowing up all the space.

At first it looked lush, even impressive.

But when I lifted the leaves, I realized the strawberry plants were completely smothered. They never had a chance to grow because there was simply no room left.

And that’s exactly what happens in our lives when we resist letting go.

Every transition has a letting go. Something no longer fits.
A relationship, a title, a role, a story we’ve told ourselves.

But most of us want the new beginning without the loss.
We want the clarity without the grief.
The future without releasing the past.

When we resist letting go, we stay tangled in what was.

Our emotional and spiritual space gets crowded with:

• old expectations,
• familiar patterns, and
• outdated identities.

And just like that garden, the new thing can’t take root.
Not because something’s wrong with us, but because there simply isn’t space.

Here’s the life-changing truth:

Real transformation doesn’t happen by holding on, but by letting go.

Shift #2: From Holding On to Letting Go

Letting go with grace allows us to:

• Stop dragging the past into the future
• Make peace with what we cannot change
• Trust that release is not the end, but the doorway to a beginning

But how do we actually do that?

In Module 3 of Brave Becoming, we explore how each Enneagram type uniquely resists letting go.

For some, it looks like clinging to control.
For others, bypassing pain with positivity.
Some of us numb out.
Some of us stay busy so we don’t have to feel.

The Enneagram gives us language for our resistance.
So we can finally stop fighting it and begin releasing it with compassion.

So you can make space for what’s waiting to grow.

Because sometimes, the tomatoes just have to be pruned…
to make room for the strawberries.

Ready to make room for what’s next?

👉 Join Brave Becoming, a 6-week guided experience designed to help you release what no longer fits, so you can make space for what’s trying to take root.

Instead of feeling stuck in what was, you’ll begin moving forward with more lightness, clarity, and open-handed trust.

So you can step into your next chapter not weighed down by the past, but grounded, hopeful, and ready for what’s emerging.

With you in the journey,

Matt Rhodes
Certified Enneagram Coach and Spiritual Director

P. S. The 44% Black Friday discount for Brave Becoming ends Monday, December 1.
If you want help letting go of what no longer fits and making space for what is emerging, this is the best time to join.

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